If you are looking to make things better in your home, and what parent isn't, take on one thing at a time. You want your kids to stop leaving things all around the house, want them making their beds? Pick one thing and work it, consistently, for a couple of weeks. Remind, remind, remind. Firm is fine, but nagging is useless. Use this tool from, How to Talk to your kids so they'll listen and listen so they will talk.
Use simple, short directives with no editorial!
"Billy, remember your lunch for school. Billy, your lunch."
Don't fall into nagging and adding comments that cloud the task.
"Billy, you never remember your lunch, you are so forgetful, I am sick of reminding you!"
Although a natural response to frustration, it doesn't help your child and it doesn't get the job done.
Simple one line responses are what will work. Pick one change you want in your household with your child and work it with consistency and short directives. You will get there a lot quicker!
Have a great week!
Maria
That is so great. I am sick of hearing myself nag and my son doesn't listen to that anyway.
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